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Parenting Tips


  • Enjoy your child. Have fun together! Through enjoyment, hostility is reduced, and it's hard to be upset with someone you're having fun with!
  • Emphasize the positive. Ask your child to do what you want done rather than what you do not want done. "It's time to put your toys away" is positive. "Don't leave your toys on the floor" suggests a negative option.
  • Give your child a choice only when you can accept the decision made. "The blue or yellow shirt looks good with those pants. Which do you want to wear?"
  • Remember to recognize and reward good behavior.
  • Remember that discipline evolves from order (understanding the rules and knowing what to expect), respect (for self and others), trust (built from honesty and consistency), and responsibility (a child's contribution to family living).
  • Your children first begin forming an opinion of themselves by the manner in which you talk to them. How they feel about themselves affects all aspects of their lives. Is much of what they hear from you positive or negative?
  • Make ordinary, everyday experiences pleasurable for your child. 
  • Set aside special times with each of your children. Allow them to choose an activity that they would like to do.
  • Move physically closer to your children when you talk to them. Hold them.
  • For a heart-to-heart talk, go to the child's room or a quiet place. Encourage your children to express their feelings - both positive and negative.
  • When you talk with your children or they talk with you, stop what you are doing and look into their eyes.
  • Remember each child is his own person and may do things differently than you.
  • Respond to your child with patience and understanding. Scolding or criticizing your child in front of others demonstrates a lack of sensitivity and respect.
  • Share your feelings with your child - often!
  • Comments such as "That's no big deal." or "You shouldn't feel that way." make your children believe that their feelings are not important to you.
  • Help your child focus upon other peoples' strengths, developing tolerance for those with different values and backgrounds.
  • Through your daily words and actions, let your children know that they can't be replaced, that each is very special to you, and that you love and value them.  

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